How to Raise a Child of Character

“Good character is more to be praised than outstanding talent. Most talents are to some extent a gift. Good character, by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it piece by piece—by thought, choice, courage and determination.” – John Luther We all want to raise children who will one day have ‘great character’ – an individual who cares for and about themselves as well as others.  Parenting obviously plays a huge role in the development of children’s character. That last sentence puts so much pressure on you as a parent, doesn’t it?! Or am I the only mom constantly worried that I am failing my child?! We all want our children to be compassionate, kind, patient, giving, loyal, honest, respectful … the list goes on. But how do you teach these values to your little one? I discovered a list of 52 character building thoughts for children (By Leah Davies, M.Ed.) earlier today and I think it’s very useful. The quotes are aimed at teachers and the article gives tips on how to share these with their students. The list is aimed at older children, but I narrowed the list down to these 20 thoughts that I will be using to help my little girl develop these virtues.  20 Character Building Thoughts for Children I treat others the way I want them to treat me. I am a good sport; I follow the rules, take turns and play fair. It is okay to laugh at funny things, but not to laugh at others. In order to have friends, I must act in a kind way. When I listen,...

Ways to be present with your child

I often think back to my childhood and how simple things were. For me at least. I can remember days that seemed to go on forever and spending loads of time with family and friends. Simply being. My mom was a housewife when I was little and most of her time was spent with my sister and I. My mom was always there. Always present. That is something we are thankful for every single day. Things are different today. We have multiple jobs, run households, rush from one appointment to the next and our to-do lists never seem to get any shorter. There are so many distractions in our lives that sometimes make it hard to focus on the things that are most important to us. I’ve realised that my child often sees me as a busy, distracted mom. Mom always has something ‘more important’ to do. That is not the mom I want to be. I have decided to (or at least try my best to) consciously do 3 things to help me be more present. I have to prioritise. There will always be dishes to wash and laundry to fold. Why not leave it for another day? What is more important right now? Put. The. Phone. Down. Or better yet, put it away. If I don’t see those flashing notifications, they won’t bother me as much. I have to let go of the guilt. I can’t be everything to everyone all of the time. Period. I don’t want my child to ever feel disconnected from me, so I have put together a list of things I can...

Stick 2 Me Customisable Identification Labels For Kids Review and Giveaway! (CLOSED)

And the winner is… Juanita Swanepoel! Congratulations. I’ll be in contact shortly. xoxo Let’s jump right in… I love Stick 2 Me. Yesterday morning we received Cara’s custom labels for school and they are adorable. Not only that, they are great quality and the set gives you a good selection of shapes and sizes. Stick 2 Me is a Canadian based company specialising in customisable identification labels for kids. I won a set (thank you One Step At A Time!) and I am super chuffed with the product. Why? They’re just stickers, right? Wrong. I have ordered stickers before, but these are special. This is how they arrived: I was already sold. Personal touches make the difference. Inside this envelope we found our gorgeous labels, some instructions and a few sheets of transparent film for extra protection. The set of 200 labels includes 120 waterproof stickers. I chose the Princess Collection for Cara (there’s a unicorn!) and it is super cute. There are many other collections (dinosaurs, monsters, owls, etc) chose from. Have a look at the collections HERE. The creator of Stick 2 Me, Annie Nadeau, personally illustrated all of these lovable characters. Want to win a set of 200 custom labels for your child? Then please enter via the Rafflecopter below. This giveaway is international! a Rafflecopter giveaway Terms and Conditions: All entries will be verified. The giveaway is international. The sponsor will be shipping the prize to the winner directly. Giveaway entrants are not obligated to like any Facebook pages, but it would be appreciated. Good luck!...

KidsBookClub.co.za GIVEAWAY! (CLOSED)

Congrats Cornell! I hope your aftercare kiddies love them! I’ll drop you a mail shortly xoxo Cara can’t wait for her KidsBookClub.co.za parcel to arrive every month. Here is a little recap from my review posted in Sept ’15: KidsBookClub.co.za is a subscription service which caters for kids aged 0-9 years old. Your child will receive 2 age appropriate educational, activity & reading books delivered to your door every month for R145pm (incl. delivery). You also receive a themed carry bag and 2 to 3 magazines for mom and dad for free (which is a nice bonus as I don’t buy magazines). Other perks: • You can easily manage your Book Clubs online. • You can add additional Book Clubs at discounted rates for a 2nd or 3rd child. • You get access to over 20 free activity & colouring work sheets. • Your subscription is commitment free (it automatically renews each month but you can cancel anytime). I really like the themed carry bag (very useful for toy storage) and the activity books have been a hit. Two of the books we received last month was just perfect as Cara started at a new school this year … We have not been disappointed. I’m sure you won’t be either. Want to give it a try? One lucky Pretty Please Charlie reader will win a one month’s subscription to Kids Book Club! All you have to do is comment below and tell me who the lucky little one would be if your name is picked. Extra entries for Facebook and Twitter shares  – make sure to leave a separate comment for...

Building self-esteem: Raising a happy, confident child

Last month I wrote the article below for a brand new parenting site called More4Momz. Here is the link to the original post: Building self-esteem: Raising a happy confident child. Do yourself a favour and visit More4Momz. It is a beautiful site and a fabulous source of informative articles, activities and recipes. Building self-esteem: Raising a happy confident child. Building our children’s self-esteem is one of our key responsibilities as parents. Self-esteem comes from the belief that we are accepted and loved and that we are strong and capable individuals. Our job is to ensure that our children become confident and responsible adults. When we believe in our children, our children will believe in themselves. This sounds easy enough. Or is it? To build self-esteem, parents need to realise that there is a difference between praise and encouragement. Constant praise teaches our children to please others. Over-praising may lead to a feeling of failure or inadequacy. When they do not receive praise, they may begin to doubt themselves. “If you keep telling your child she is already doing a fantastic job, you’re saying she no longer needs to push herself” says Jim Taylor, author of Your Kids Are Listening: Nine Messages They Need to Hear from You. “But confidence comes from doing, from trying and failing and trying again—from practise.” He continues to say that many parents have it backwards.  “They think struggles and failure will hurt their kids’ self-esteem, but it’s actually a golden opportunity to help build it.” Children need to know that they do not have to be perfect to be loved and accepted. Children who are encouraged...

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